Marriage Proposals

Am I Ready to Propose?

You have found an amazing partner and your relationship is going great. The two of you have even started to throw wedding talk into your conversations. You may have been together for many years, or only a short period of time, but you know you have found “the one”. Deciding you are ready to propose to someone is exciting and exhilarating, but also nerve wracking. I mean, marriage is a huge deal, and not something you want to rush into until you are confident in your decision. Knowing some signs that you are ready to propose may help you decide when to take the leap.

You love them just the way they are.

Do you love your partner not only when they are happy and having fun, but when they are sad, stressed, angry or hurt? Do you love them even though they are messy and never fold their laundry? Do you love them even though they are imperfect and have annoying quirks? Some people go into marriage expecting that their partner is going to somehow magically change overnight. People don’t change just because they get married, so make sure that you love and accept your partner the way they are now.

You are ready to commit.

Some relationships don’t end in marriage, not because the love wasn’t real, but because one or both partners didn’t feel ready to commit. Maybe you wanted to concentrate on your career and didn’t have the time to put towards your relationship. Maybe you weren’t sure what you wanted and decided to go backpacking across Asia to figure it out. When you are ready to commit you won’t want to put your career before your personal life, and won’t worry that there may be other fish in the sea. You will feel ready to jump in with all your heart.

Your friends and family support your decision.

It is important that you have the support of loved ones behind your decision. It makes life a lot easier when your family and friends accept and like your partner. This is especially important for very tight-knit families who spend a lot of time together, as your future spouse is going to become a part of the family. Also, it is a good sign when the people who know you best accept your choice. That being said, there are people who have married someone that their friends or family disapproved of, and they have gone on to have great marriages. While it is important to take into consideration the reasons your loved ones might disapprove, in the end you must make the decision that is best for you.

You have discussed children.

It is important to know how your partner feels about having children. Do they want them? How many? How soon do they want to start trying? And it is important to discuss what would happen if you were unable to have children. Would you try fertility treatments or look into surrogacy or adoption? Would they be ok if you never had any children? It’s necessary to have these conversations before you get married so that you are aware of your partner’s expectations and don’t run into conflicts in the future.

You can live together.

Going on romantic dates every Saturday night is a whole lot different than actually living with someone. Are you ok hanging out during the mundane moments of life, running errands, doing laundry, cooking dinner, or doing the dishes? Can you live with a messy person if you are a neat freak? Can you sleep in the same bed with a night hawk if you are an early riser? Will you be a team player and make compromises and try to make life comfortable for both of you? If the answer is yes, then you are on the right path.

You have discussed finances.

Yes, talking about money can make people uncomfortable, but if you are going to spend the rest of your life with someone you need to know the facts. Is one person in heavy debt while the other has been saving for years? Do you want to make a joint account or keep things separate? Does one person make more money and therefore will need to take on more financial responsibility in the marriage? These conversations can be awkward, but money is one of the biggest causes of stress within a marriage, so it is good to deal with any potential issues before you get engaged.

You can’t imagine life without them.

This is an important one. If you can’t picture yourself in the future without your partner by your side, it’s a good sign that you are with the right person. Go past the excitement of your wedding day and look further down the road. Is this the person who you want to go through all the ups and downs of life with? Do you see yourselves growing old side by side? If the answer is yes, then you probably don’t need any more signs.

Knowing that you are ready to propose ultimately comes from within you and shouldn’t be influenced by how long you have been dating, or if all your friends are getting engaged. It’s one of the biggest decisions you will ever make in your life, and one you want to make for all the right reasons. And when you are ready make sure to jump in with both feet, because it’s going to be the adventure of a lifetime!

If you ARE ready to propose and are looking for engagement rings in Toronto, then you’ve come to the right place. Engagement rings are our specialty and we’d love to help!

Toronto Wedding Florist Blush and Bloom

Toronto Wedding Florist: Blush and Bloom

At Kimberfire we specialize in diamonds and diamond jewelry which means we are often the first stop in one’s journey toward the altar. Having the opportunity to create our clients’ engagement rings and wedding bands is a very special job, and it’s exciting to see people go from planning a proposal to planning a wedding. There are so many different businesses who work within the wedding industry, and we created this ongoing blog series to highlight Toronto-based wedding insiders who can help make your dream wedding a reality.

Recently I had the pleasure of meeting with Becky DeOliveira, the owner of popular Toronto flower studio, Blush and Bloom. I discovered Blush and Bloom on Instagram, where I became one of the 33K+ followers who couldn’t get enough of the stunning floral bouquets and arrangements that have elevated floral design to an artform. Blush and Bloom’s work has been featured in the magazines Wedding Bells and Today’s Bride, the blog Style me Pretty, and of course, in plenty of weddings! I sat down with Becky to learn more about her story.

Becky, please tell us a bit about yourself and your company Blush and Bloom.

From the moment I first held a flower I knew I would be a florist. I grew up surrounded by nature and my mother is an avid gardener, who always encouraged me to to go weed the garden or make a posie out of wildflowers. My mom was conditioning a florist in the making from aged 5 years old! From my years of watering annuals at a greenhouse, to delivering flowers, managing shops, and teaching classes this has always been who I am. Flowers are what I know.

The B&B mantra is to design, style and perfect every element of each event to reflect our clients’ personal style and aesthetic, and pair it naturally with our luscious garden style florals.

How many years has Blush and Bloom been in business?

Blush and Bloom will be 6 years young this summer, but I have been in the flower world for 18 years!

How did your education and/or previous job experience prepare you for running your own business?

Thankfully working for other people, and always holding management positions prepared me (only partially!) for the responsibilities of being a business owner. I think knowing the industry, especially in the world of perishable product is very, very crucial to not going broke! I don’t have a business background, or any formal entrepreneurial education, so the industry experience is all I have to credit the choices I’ve made so far. What worked for other businesses may not work for me, and I was lucky to see that when I was an employee and alter my business plan and approach. This being said, I always ask for opinions from other small business owners and keep a close network of female business colleagues at arm’s reach for advice.

What kinds of services do you offer?

We have a range of services including tabletop décor and florals, ceremony archways, ceiling installations, personal flowers and design recommendations to help our clients have an overall cohesive and flowing look. The price points and minimum spend vary depending on the season.

How would you describe the Blush and Bloom style, and where do you get your inspiration from?

B&B’s look is garden style florals with a fresh, and edgy twist.

I draw inspiration from other makers, designers, florists, fashion, textiles and patterns, landscapes and colour palettes!

What advice would you give to a couple who is looking for a floral designer for their wedding day?

Trust the professionals and interview several companies. Have a loose concept and 3 images of the feel (but not replication) of what you’re thinking for your event. Be open! You may not be able to get the exact product (or pricing!) that your budget allows for. Ask for suggestions from the pros, it’s our job to get creative!

In 2016 you started a sister business to Blush and Bloom, please tell us a bit about Bloom School.

Bloom School is a dream I have had for over 10 years. My hands-on experience comes from working under several designers, taking courses and volunteering. I never felt the programs I had invested in were up to date, it was only about technique and the end result was never a representation of what my personal style was. I always felt like someone young and fresh had to overhaul the education programs of the large “floral design schools” in Canada in order to better the new generation of budding designers. Bloom School amalgamates modern day floral design with desirable blooms to practise on, with a focus on how to design for photographing your work. We then advise on how to use that content to brand yourself and sell your style to your clients.

What are some continuing and new trends for wedding florals?

I think experimenting with colour is always a trend and a modern approach to weddings. The balance between wanting to be timeless but not all white can be a challenge, but also unique at the same time. Lush blooms paired with gestural dancing flowers with playful stems are always a favorite in our studio.

Do you have a favourite flower?

Can you ever choose a favorite child?! I have so many. The delicate stem of a scabiosa or a ranunculus, or the fullness of a fading peony… all so magical, it’s impossible to choose just one.

What is the most challenging aspect of your job?

Managing expectations and planning logistics. So much of what we do is planning and orchestrating… not just playing with flowers!

What is the most rewarding aspect of your job?

Looking at a room completely perfect after a 10-hour installation day with my hard-working team, after the clients see it and beam with happiness. That feeling is the most amazing reward of all time.

Have you ever had a floral disaster the day of a wedding or event, and if so how did you handle the situation?

After this long, no one could have a perfect record! Of course we’ve had accidents, miscommunications or day-of changes that weren’t anticipated. It comes with the gig! Luckily, we try to plan for the worst and always be prepared. Weather is usually a big aspect of how things can go south fast, so knowing rain plans and having weights for outdoor ceremonies are always, always a necessity to be able to roll with the punches!

Your social media pages are filled with stunning photography of your creations – how important is social media to running your business?

Very! I don’t have a strategy per say, but as the years go by the one thing I can say is that quality of photo/content is important. I like to have good lighting for photos and a clear idea of the shot before I go for it. I don’t spend all day curating photos and over designing our pieces, however, we do take 15 minutes a day to grab the best light and capture the “in the moment” designs we are creating for our clients. No grainy photos with bad light do any flower arrangement justice!

What sets Blush and Bloom apart from the competition?

I’ve had others tell me that it’s my ability to keep it real with our clients, planners and my staff. I put that foot forward in social media and don’t often filter myself. I think this gives the followers (and clients) the opportunity to get on the level of whatever is on my mind. I also tend to keep a balance of playful realness and show people that I can be pretty breezy and do not take myself so seriously. I like to have fun but be straightforward, and that is how I like people to approach me.

That aside, from a design perspective we are always pushing the envelope and setting new goals for this brand. I don’t like “copying” one client’s wedding and just “mass producing” because it’s what we know. We like a challenge!

Having been a part of so many weddings, what advice can you give to couples on how to get the most out of their big day?

Try to let the professionals handle the day of. That’s what you paid them for! Enjoy the day, it goes by so fast, and to spend it agonizing over details or trying to control every element is exhausting and impossible. It’s easy to get caught up in perfection and forget the main reason why you’re there in the first place, which is to get married to the love of your life, with everyone who loves you there to witness.

Thank you so much for taking time to share your company and insights with us.

Thank you, it was my pleasure!

Photo credits: Mango Studios, Tara McMullen, Scarlet O’Neill

Wedding Ring Finger Blog

The Ring Finger Through the Ages

Which finger is the ring finger? Which hand does the engagement ring and wedding band go on? At first glance these questions seem to have a very simple answer – wedding and engagement rings go on the fourth finger of the left hand. Easy right?!

Not so fast. Here in Canada as well as the US, Britain, France, Italy and many other countries, that is the traditional hand to wear your wedding rings, but this is by no means universal. The hand that you wear your engagement ring and wedding band on can be determined by culture, religion and geography. Let’s take a look at what has influenced current traditions.

The Vein of Love

Long before the engagement ring was the wedding ring, which has been traced back to Ancient Egypt. The Egyptians considered the circle to be a symbol of eternity, and the ring to symbolize eternal love. Various Roman sources claim that Ancient Egyptians wore their wedding rings on the fourth finger of their left hand, as they believed that finger has a vein that is directly connected to the heart. This vein is called the Vena Amoris (Vein of Love in Latin), and while it’s a lovely idea, it is not anatomically correct.

The Un-ROMAN-tics

The Romans continued the tradition of wearing their wedding rings on their left hand as they followed the Egyptian way. The Roman marriage was more of a business contract than a romance, with the ring signifying the transaction of the woman being passed from her father to her husband. This meant that the wedding ring was only worn by the woman and not the man. This pattern of only women wearing a ring continued for most of history, until around WWII when men also began to wear a ring.

The Right Side

As Christianity spread throughout the Roman Empire and beyond, the wedding ring began to be worn by those of the Christian faith. There is evidence that Catholics wore their wedding rings on the right hand during the early middle ages. This came from the belief that the right hand was spiritually more significant, as God blesses with his right hand and it is also used to make the sign of the cross. In 1054 AD the Greek Orthodox Church broke away from the Roman Catholic Church, and to this day Orthodox Christians still wear their engagement rings and wedding bands on their right hand. The influence of the Orthodox Church in Russia and most Eastern European countries means they also wear their rings on the right hand. Jewish wedding ceremonies began including rings in the middle ages and they also wore them on the right hand, however during the ceremony the ring was placed on the index finger where it was easier for witnesses to see.

The Left Side

In the 16th century the Protestant Reformation saw the Church of England break away from the Catholic Church. King Edward VI declared that the wedding ring must be worn on the left hand and the new church wrote a prayer book laying out the placement of the ring during the ceremony. The Protestant church chose the left hand because it wanted to distinguish itself from the Catholic practise of wearing the ring on the right hand. Since then the majority, but not all, of Western European countries have worn their rings on the left hand. England’s vast colonization spread this tradition to many parts of the globe.

Rules of Engagement

The concept of the engagement ring didn’t occur until 1215 AD when Pope Innocent III declared that there must be a waiting period between the engagement and the wedding to test the devotion of the couple to each other. However, it was only the nobility who were able to afford both an engagement ring and a wedding band. When wearing an engagement ring and wedding band on the same hand, the wedding band traditionally goes on first and the engagement ring second. This originally stemmed from an old superstition that once the wedding band was put on it must never be taken off. These days the wedding band is put on first so that it is closer to the heart.

Rings for All

While the Western part of the world has a long tradition with the wedding ring, many other parts of the world didn’t wear one at all. Traditionally, in Islam, Hinduism, Buddhism and Sikhism there was no ring included in the wedding ceremonies, although they had other symbols and/or jewellery they would wear. Today most cultures have added engagement and wedding rings to their rituals due to the influence of globalization. The hand these countries choose to wear their rings on often ties in to their traditional beliefs. In India they wear them on the right hand because that hand is considered auspicious and the left hand unclean. In China the woman wears her rings on her right hand and the man on his left, because the woman is the one who runs the household and the right hand exerts more influence.

And the Answer Is…

So to the question of which hand does your wedding ring go on, the answer is it depends on where in the world you live. As I live in Canada, everyone I know wears them on their left hand. But if I lived in Russia then they would most likely wear them on their right hand. Also, in most societies, both men and women wear a wedding ring, while engagement rings are still mainly worn by women. Despite these traditions, in today’s society there are no longer strict rules and if someone wants to wear their engagement ring or wedding ring on a different finger or hand, then they should do what feels right for them.

Photo credit: Jeremie Dupont

Perfect Places to Propose

10 Perfect Places in the World to Propose

There are so many romantic and beautiful places on earth that would make the perfect backdrop to a marriage proposal. So many places for an amazing story and a gorgeous photo to show off on social media! While to list all romantic places would be too numerous for one little article, I did put together a collection of what I think would be the perfect place to propose to different personalities.

The Foodie – Rome, Italy

For the food lover there is no greater spot to propose than in the eternal city of Rome. Italian food is one of the most popular and beloved cuisines on earth (pizza alone gets my vote for number 1) which makes it the perfect spot for a foodie. While sightseeing around the city make sure to get yourself a treat of their world famous gelato. There are also numerous food tours to take you to the best markets and restaurants the city has to offer.

For the big question you can sign up for a pasta making class with an Italian chef who will teach you how to make pasta by hand while you sip on delicious wines. When the lesson is finished you and your partner get to relax while you eat the meal that you have made together, and you can ask them to be yours forever. Afterwards head up to one of Rome’s hotel rooftop bars to watch the city while you sip on a glass of sparkling prosecco.

The Dreamer – Tenerife, Canary Islands, Spain

Is the one you love a deep thinker, who is always dreaming of a better tomorrow? Then why not whisk them away to the stars! Take a trip to Tenerife, the largest of Spain’s Canary Islands, just off the coast of North Africa. Once there take your loved one to visit Spain’s Mount Teide, a 10-mile-wide volcanic crater that is the highest peak in Spain, and is one of the best star gazing sites in the entire world. The universe has 88 constellations, and 83 of those can be seen from Mount Teide on a clear night. You can travel there part way by car and then a cable car will take you to the top for the view. There are numerous companies that will organize star gazing tours and prepare chef cooked meals and beverages while you are up there. Toast your loved one with a glass of Cava while you watch the amazing sunset, and then pop the question while you gaze at the wonders of the universe.

The Book Worm – Dublin, Ireland

Is your special someone the type who loves to get lost in a good book? Is a library the most romantic spot for them? If so head over to Dublin and visit Trinity College, where you can both walk the cobblestone streets of Dublin’s most famous institute. The college produced many famous literary talents, like Samuel Beckett, Oscar Wilde and Bram Stoker. You must visit The Long Room, a library that contains over 200,000 books including the Book of Kells which was a manuscript created by Irish monks over 1200 years ago. The beautiful room of old books, dark oak bookcases and marble busts of great philosophers and writers is the perfect spot to get down on one knee. To celebrate your new engagement, walk over to The Brazen Head, the oldest Pub in Dublin, and enjoy a pint like the writers James Joyce and Jonathan Swift did many years ago.

The Beach Bum – Fiji

There are lots of people who love being at the beach, and for whom a beach proposal would be amazing. But how about taking it to the next level with your own private beach in the middle of the ocean! In Fiji there are three small islands – Nukubati, Treasure Island and Royal Davui Island. When you stay at one of these islands, the hotel will provide you with a private picnic on a sandbar! You and your partner will be whisked away by boat and taken to your own private sandbar in the middle of the South Pacific Ocean, and given chairs, a table and a champagne lunch. You are then left to yourselves for the rest of the day where, on your own little beach, you can ask for your partner’s hand in marriage.

The Prince or Princess – Prague, Czech Republic

Does your partner think that they are real life royalty? Do they wish they could be in every Disney fairy tale? If so, then consider proposing at a real life castle in Prague! Prague Castle is one of the oldest and largest castles in the world. Construction first began in the year 870 and features architecture in both Gothic and Roman styles. After touring the castle, you can head outside to stroll around the many gardens with views of the city and river and then get down on one knee to ask the big question. To celebrate the happy moment head over to Saint Wenceslas Vineyard, an ancient vineyard on the castle grounds, that was restored in 2008. Sip from a glass of wine on one of the terraces and enjoy the beautiful surroundings.

The Christmas Obsessed – Quebec City, Canada

We all know that one person who can’t wait until December 25th and who has their tree and house all decorated at the beginning of November. If you are in love with someone like that, then there is only one place to propose… Quebec City! With an average snowfall of 400cm, each winter the city is transformed into a winter wonderland. Starting in early December Old Quebec is turned into an old fashioned Christmas village, straight out of Charles Dickens’ “A Christmas Carol”. Twinkling lights, evergreen trees and a sparkling snowfall make for the absolute perfect holiday proposal. Afterwards head over to the landmark hotel Fairmont Le Château Frontenac to warm up with some hot chocolate while you admire all the decorations.

The Fashionista – Paris, France

If you are in love with someone who loves everything about fashion, then the place for their perfect proposal is surely Paris! Paris is the place where both the first fashion designer made his name and haute couture was born. Coco Channel, Christian Dior and Yves Saint Laurent were just a few of the many designers who called Paris home.

Take your partner to Paris’ Golden Triangle, located between three famous boulevards, Avenue des Champs-Élysées, Avenue Montaigne and Avenue George V. Here you will find luxury shopping, legendary hotels and restaurants. Take a break right in the middle of the action at L’Avenue, a café where you will get the best view of Paris’ fashionable people. Both the Arc de Triomphe and the Eiffel Tower are a short walk away from this area, and excellent places for a proposal. While there will be lots of tourists around, a true fashion lover will want all eyes on them for this big moment.

The Outdoor Adventurer – Big Island, Hawaii, USA

For those people who hate being stuck indoors and love to keep active, head over to Hawaii’s Big Island for an amazing adventure. On the north shore of the Island you will find the Waipi’o Valley, where ancient Hawaiian royalty are buried. This lush valley features 3000 ft. cliffs covered in taro fields, lotus ponds, streams and waterfalls. You can travel through the valley by 4-wheel drive, hiking or horseback riding with guides. Whichever way you traverse the terrain will not be an easy path, however the life affirming beauty of the views will be well worth it. Where the valley meets the ocean is a black sand beach, where you can propose to your love while wild horses run along the sand.

The Film Buff – New York City, USA

If your partner would like nothing more than a proposal straight out of a movie, look no further than New York City! Some people might be surprised I didn’t say Hollywood but, while Tinseltown is where the movies are made, there is just something so magical about the city that makes you feel like you are in a movie. Whether it’s a kids movie like Big and Home Alone, gangster classics like The Godfather and Goodfellas, or romantic favorites like When Harry met Sally, Sleepless in Seattle or Breakfast at Tiffany’s, the Big Apple is where it’s at! And it isn’t just the movies, NYC is the home of classic tv shows like Sex and the City, The Sopranos, Seinfeld and Friends. Wherever you decide to pop the question, strolling through Central Park, in the hustle of Grand Central Station, on the observation deck of the Empire State Building or right smack dab in the middle of Times Square, you will feel the cinematic romance of the city that never sleeps.

The Animal Lover – Kenya, East Africa

If no proposal sounds complete without animals nearby, head to Kenya and visit the Lewa Wildlife Conservancy. This conservancy is home to a diverse group of wildlife such as lions, elephant, giraffes, gazelles, impalas, and warthogs, and is famous for its conservation efforts of the Black Rhino and Grevy’s Zebra. At the Lewa Safari Camp you can stay in one of twelve tents that are finished like luxury bungalows, with thatched roofs, en suite bathrooms and verandas with views of the plains and animals. The central portion has a dining and lounge space with a fire pit and swimming pool. After a long day exploring the area you can head back to the camp and propose during a sundowner – a safari tradition where you watch the spectacular sunset across the plains while enjoying a cocktail. It is said that this is the place where Prince William proposed to Kate Middleton and, if it’s the perfect place for a royal proposal, it’s definitely good enough for me!

Your Perfect Spot

Now that I have compiled my list of perfect proposal spots, I really could use a romantic vacation of my own! These places are romantic, meaningful and beautiful and you really couldn’t go wrong with any one of them. However, there are lots of other places that may be romantic because they have special meaning to you as a couple, such as the place you first met or the place you realized you were in love. Or maybe the place you choose to propose doesn’t have to be significant, maybe it matters more that the moment feels right. There is no right or wrong way to propose, and each couple should do what works for them. I would be just as happy getting engaged to the one I love sitting on the couch at home as I would be on my own private beach. That being said, I would still like to go to that beach!

Where did you, or are you hoping to, get engaged? Where is your perfect place? Let us know in the comments below!

Engagement Ring Resizing

Engagement Ring Size and Resizing: What You Need to Know

You have found the one with whom you want to spend the rest of your life, and are getting ready to pop the question. You research diamonds and ring designs and choose an engagement ring that will be just perfect for them. But wait, there is one thing you don’t know – their ring size! Unlike a necklace or earrings, rings are one piece of jewelry where size really does matter. But don’t let the fact that you don’t know the correct ring size derail your engagement plans – we are here to give you all the information you need to know about assessing ring size and resizing a ring.

Ring Sizes

In Canada and the United States ring sizes follow a numerical scale which is based on the inner circumference of the ring. They come in full sizes, half sizes and quarter sizes. The average size of a lady’s ring is in and around a size 6, and the average size of a men’s ring is between size 8 and 10. However lots of people fall outside these numbers, with smaller or larger sizes needed.

Figuring Out the Engagement Ring Size

Many people try to figure out their partner’s ring size before they buy a ring, and there are a few ways you can attempt to do this.

Asking friends or family members can be a good way to find out. If you can covertly borrow a ring your partner wears and bring it to a jeweler, then they can measure the ring on a mandrel (a conical metal sizing tool) to find the correct size. However, the ring you borrow will need to be worn on the correct finger and be a similar width, or else the sizing will be off.

If you and your partner have talked about getting engaged, you can always stop by a jewelry store at the mall together and get their size “for in the future”.

Many online sites suggest wrapping a piece of paper or string around their finger while your partner sleeps, but this is not reliable enough to get an accurate reading.

If you do not know your partner’s actual ring size though it is not a problem for an experienced jeweler. At Kimberfire we help our customers estimate the ring size and then after the proposal we resize the ring to be the perfect fit, at no charge.

Professional Ring Sizing

After your best efforts to figure out the ring size, the perfect ring may still not be the perfect fit. Don’t sweat the small stuff (or the too big stuff) because your jeweler is here to help. When you come to get your engagement ring sized we will check the size of the current ring and then place various sized ring sizers on the finger. The ring sizers come in full and half sizes, but the ring can be sized between the two sizes as well.

There are some things that need to be taken into consideration when deciding what size is the right fit:

  • A wider ring will fit tighter than a thinner ring.
  • Temperature will affect your ring size, as fingers often swell in summer heat and shrink in cold weather.
  • Your finger can fluctuate in size through the day depending on temperature and water retention.
  • Adding another ring beside the ring (like a wedding band) will make the rings feel tighter as they cover more surface area.
  • A ring should slide easily over the knuckle when going on, and there should be some pull when you take it off.
  • Ring sizing is not an exact science as it really depends on the finger shape and how the person likes the ring to feel on their finger.

Something else to consider is that some people have knuckles which are much wider than the base of their finger, and this can cause the ring to spin around when worn (this is especially true for larger stones and top heavy rings). To counteract the spinning a jeweler can add sizing beads inside the ring, which makes the ring feel a bit tighter but still makes it possible to fit the ring over the knuckle.

How the Jeweler Resizes the Ring

There are two ways to resize a ring. The first is by placing the ring on a metal ring stretcher or compressor and using force to either stretch or compress the size. This method usually only works for plain wedding bands and cannot be used for rings with diamonds or gemstones, or those with intricate details.

The second method involves cutting the ring. To make a ring larger the ring is cut at the very bottom, and the two sides are moved further apart from each other. A new piece of metal (the same type of metal the ring is made of) is then added and soldered into place. The jeweler then polishes the ring so that the new area is undetectable. To make a ring smaller, the ring is cut at the base in two places and a piece of metal is removed. Then the two sides of the ring are brought together, soldered and polished. Don’t be alarmed at the thought of your ring being cut and set on fire – ring sizing is a routine process and a professional jeweler should be able to resize the ring without affecting its durability and without anyone being able to detect that the ring was altered in any way.

Potential Ring Resizing Issues

If you need to resize a ring more than two full sizes, you may run into problems depending on the ring’s design. Rings with intricate wire work or filigree will probably be too fragile for a large size change. Rings with gemstones set in them have to be resized very carefully so that the angles don’t change to the point that the stones are misaligned or fall out. In general, too great of a size adjustment can destroy the structural integrity of the ring and leave it misshapen or vulnerable to breakage.

If a ring has been resized more than a couple times it may run into issues such as thinning of the shank, and of the prongs if there are diamonds on the shank. If this happens the ring may need to be remade in the correct size.

Eternity rings with diamonds or gemstones encircling the entire ring cannot be sized. It is not recommended to buy this style of ring without knowing the correct ring size.

Men’s rings that are made in titanium, tungsten, ceramic or stainless steel may be extremely difficult or impossible to size and again are not recommended to buy without knowing the right size.

If your ring has an engraving on the inside or outside of the ring shank, it is very possible that it will be destroyed during sizing, and will have to be removed and completely redone.

A reputable jeweler should explain all these possible issues with you before any resizing is attempted.

The Perfect Fit

Once you have found the perfect size for your ring, it should be comfortable and secure. You shouldn’t worry about it falling off your finger or not being able to come off when you want it to. You can now wear your ring with confidence and show that beauty off to the world.